Loyal Pussy Vs New Pussy

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I was meant to set a one post a week target, that lasted all of two weeks, I apologise. It’s quite difficult to frequently write about topics in a manner which everyone will enjoy whether they agree with what I have to say or not. I have opinions for days, there’s no way of them running out but enough of me trying to gain your forgiveness, I’m back.

So recently a friend directed me to another blog which he felt dealt with the same kind of issues that I touch upon. I visited the site and thoroughly enjoyed. I didn’t necessarily agree with everything which was said but never the less I couldn’t help but go through the rest of his posts intrigued. It is a take on relationships, sex, etc from a male perspective, it is very raw but very insightful. We all know that men and women do not think the same therefore something can always be learned from the opposite sex. For this post I have decided to focus on a topic which he has already discussed in order to demonstrate a female perspective.

Loyal pussy Vs New Pussy
http://blackgirlsareeasy.com/2012/03/loyal-puy-vs-new-puy.html (link to original post)

In accordance to the post, ladies we have no luck, even if we are loyal, even if we are ride or die, even if we are willing to give up our lives for our men we could still be rewarded with infidelity. As a woman I cannot argue about mens excitement and willingness to explore new pussy but to be told that we could in turn always lose to new pussy, due to a mans addiction and reluctance to turn down pussy/pussies exclusive to his piece, I have to worry. Society teaches that the classy, sophisticated, more exclusive, loyal woman is the winner, men will wife her in an instant and treat her right in comparison to the more promiscuous, wild and ratchet woman. My point being what is the point of chasing what society tells us will definitely land us a “good & respectable” marriage when no matter what I could still receive a man who will treat me the same way as my opposite in terms of loyalty. If new pussy is winning then after that first sexual encounter I might as well throw in the towel.

I’m not stupid, I know that with men I have to separate emotions from sex and realise that a lot of men who would admit to this theory would also claim to love their loyal pussy no matter their actions. They may even try to convince us that cheating does not reflect on how they treat their loyal pussy and how much they would do for them but why the hell not!? Why should I separate your behaviour from your emotions, I mean when you decide to put new pussy over loyal pussy why is it not right to believe you just don’t respect your loyal pussy enough? The term new pussy doesn’t even paint a pussy of standards, new pussy could be any pussy, how can this not reflect on a man as a person and how he feels about his ride or die? You lose stripes in my eyes.

In the post there is the female that is referred to as the game changer, this is the female I assume society tells us to be. This is the woman that is meant to show you something which no other woman has shown, the woman that you should want to claim for the rest of your lives. Even so it seems that there is still a struggle for men once they’ve found her as some of them may not want to acknowledge the royalty of what they have or they may find it hard to disregard any other pussy that has been around and continues to stay around. Why is new pussy always a threat? I want to understand what makes it so hard to determine that you are going to stick to one woman for the rest of your life, why is it so daunting? It seems as though a man is ok with saying I will be with so and so for the rest of my life, loyal pussy I choose you, but he is not ok with saying I will only have sexual relations with so and so for the rest of my life.

What men need to understand is that for women we believe that the two should be hand in hand with one another. I don’t want the promise of one without the other, don’t expect me to be merely amused by hearing “rest of my life” you need to fill in the blanks. I don’t care about the crap excuses, we weren’t built to be monogamous creatures, we think with the wrong head, new pussy is forever trying to tempt us, if you know where you’re going “wrong” then you know how to put a halt to it. Firstly is recognition then there is action. If new pussy is attempting to lure you in and you know you’re reluctance levels are poor due to your having a penis then you need to extract yourself from that situation as soon as possible. To be honest a lot of females allow men to exercise these stupid excuses and even let them continue with their behaviour making them think it’s ok. There are no excuses that deem this behaviour as acceptable, you could have slipped tripped and fell in that new pussy it’s still your fault. The only person you should be slipping near is me.

The post was very insightful but all in all I just saw a bunch of excuses that men use to try and justify their cheating and although it feels as though the writer is not condoning cheating indirectly he most definitely is. I’m sure there are a lot of men who read that post and came across new excuses which they now use. As women we are expected to carry ourselves in a respectable manner, there are no excuses, men cheat on us now it’s our turn, we think with our clits, new penis is irresistible, we’re not built to be monogamous, he put it on me. Many of you probably laughed at those excuses, it would never fly for us so why do men have so much to say in defence of their cheating. A penis should never give you the right to be unfaithful and if I am in a committed relationship I expect that my partner is also in one.

I also want to take this moment to say happy 50th earth day to my mother, love you loads, Dad I’m not leaving you love you both, my role models.. They’ve made it guys lol x

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5 thoughts on “Loyal Pussy Vs New Pussy

  1. Yillah says:

    Ok firstly interesting post as usual… Just one question tho… What the hell does the pic at the top has to do with this post at all?!!!

    When it comes to the topic tho… I believe ‘cheating’ is a form of illness. Sometimes we recover from it as we mature but other times, well hmm.

    There are times I’ve agreed with the phrase ‘you can’t say I don’t love you, just because I cheat on you’… Actually I think I still do a bit… But the main issue is ‘do I love you THAT much tho?!’

    In any case, love changes and men don’t cheat expecting to be caught. But when we do get caught, the idea of losing that ‘loyal pussy’ probably amplifies our love for her so much more.

    Lastly, you can’t out out fire with fire tho!

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    • mslissa23 says:

      Loool some people only read picture books so I’m trying to appeal to them also.

      I’ve never believed cheating was a sure sign of not being love but I do have to question the strength of that love, u can’t tell me you are willing to die for some1 but you’re not willing to be faithful to them.

      You’re right you can’t out fire with fire & I’m not saying women should no longer try to be a female worthy of wifing but I do think it’s unfair that it is expected of us women to understand this behaviour when the understanding would not be returned.

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  2. Sophie-Louise says:

    Firstly Mel, good post. Secondly, I think people think it’s ok for men to cheat because of the statistics about how often they think about sex. I believe they say it is every 7 seconds, which would mean around 8000 times a day. I have never seen the research to back up this claim, (it seems excessive to me), however I think most people believe this even without the evidence. Because people hear this, I think that makes them believe that men can not help themselves, they can not control it or it is natural for them to have sexual feelings towards other women, even when they are in a relationship,basically people now believe that is acceptable for men to cheat because “they are men”. Thirdly, there are women in the world who encourage this type of behaviour, with stupid comments like “he can do what he wants, but he always comes home to me” which I find is degrading and women who say this must have low self asteem or confidence, because I don’t think that that is acceptable behaviour for any partner or husband. But when women continue to accept this type of behaviour the more men think that it is acceptable!!! If a man cheats on you, that’s never acceptable, no matter his reason. Lately I hear a lot of…. I love my girl, sex is just sex. But if a female cheated on her boyfriend and said that, I am almost 100% sure they wouldn’t fly. So my last point is what’s acceptable for one is acceptable for the other. If he wouldn’t accept it, then why should you.

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  3. Random Chick says:

    So men are always called men but women get grouped as loyal pussy and new pussy. I wonder if men would talk about themselves in such a way?

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