This little article tickled me. I had to write about it, I just had to.
There are so many things that are wrong with the situation it’s unbelievable. I think the most obvious is that this female has become accustomed to lying about the amount of men she has slept with. The problem is it cannot be considered as a little white lie. She has almost divided the amount of sexual partners she has had by 20 in order to create a more innocent, less promiscuous perception of herself. 4/5 cannot compare to 73, this is deception at it’s finest and I feel that it is unfair to deceive someone especially if it is something they feel strongly about. I’m not saying that she is not a nice person, I’m not even saying that she is not wife material but that is up to the guy/s she is dating to make a decision.
This brings me to my next point. How vital is it to know your partners sexual history. I feel that it is entirely up to the persons in question.
In this particular case I don’t think it was important at all! They guy had already fallen in love, so deep that he had determined he was going to spend the rest of his life with this woman and propose. He did all of this without asking the question, “how many dudes have you slept with?” If that was the case he should have never asked, yes I said it, he should never have asked. Knowing that the question could result in an answer which, potentially could upset him, for all we know if she had said the number 2 his personal preferences would have still caused upset as he could only want a woman who has only been with him.
All deal breaker questions should be asked during the dating period that is the whole point of trying to get to know a person. You have to give her props, she chose to go with honesty which a lot of males and females do not, although I feel that had she been asked any earlier she would have lied. It’s down to personal preference I do not want to wait until it is too late, years into a commuted relationship, to be asking questions which could make my partner lose all of his appeal. And IF it is already too deep before I consider the question I wouldn’t ask it for fear of knowing that it could turn my world upside down, especially if the answer has not effected me in any way previous. E.G. He used to be promiscuous but his partner has no clue as there aren’t any indications, no skeletons jumping out of the closet, no difference in sexual activity, etc.
Guys and dolls be sensible when getting into a relationship. Explore all that u deem important in the beginning stage to avoid awkward situations like the above. Get to know that person in and out. There is way too much emphasis on being in a relationship nowadays, people break up and find it difficult to be by themselves. This is the result, jumping into something else to distract themselves from the relationship before and moving way too quickly, take your time.